It has been known for social psychologist for a long time that we humans seek to rationalize our irrational behavior*.
I see people extend the same behaviour to justify their behaviours to others, even though it is not asked for or even expected. People spend a large amount of time and energy thinking about what story to tell their boss/colleague/partner/kid/friend that justifies their actions. From time to time I see people acting against their own intent if they can’t find a matching story to tell others.
One of the hardest things to do without a matching story is to say no. No, I cannot do that. No, I cannot prioritize this just no. No, that does not align with my long-term goals. No.
Start saying no to things, and see how often you are asked to justify your no. I bet you it is less often than you think.
* Two excellent reads on the topic is Dan Airelys Predictably Irrational and Daniel Kahnemans Thinking, Fast and Slow.
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